A boy-meets-boy story


Guy Ho and Henry Lam are married. They’re gay and they aren’t afraid to show Hong Kong how open they are about it. They’re so fearless, in fact, they’ve filmed a documentary called Different Path, Same Way that showcases their journey to Canada to obtain a legal marriage licence. That was a year-and-a-half ago, on June 3, 2011, and their story is about to be aired at the Science Museum, showing our city a few remarkable things about their unique gay marriage. Firstly, despite the fact the couple’s marriage licence isn’t recognised in Hong Kong, they chose to return to live here. And, secondly, Ho, 51, and Lam, 35, are probably the only openly local gay married couple in Hong Kong which has the balls to share its story. But why exactly are they putting themselves in the limelight? To give off a bit of ‘positive energy’, they say…

Isn’t it rather rare to see openly gay married couples in Hong Kong?
H: I have to say that it’s rather uncommon but I feel totally comfortable with being myself. When it was time for me to get married, I just got married – and fortunately it was possible in Canada. That was what we decided to do when we were having a trip there and we actually took that action. We wanted to get married and then there was the idea of making a documentary just for fun. And then more ideas came along and then it all just snowballed into something I never expected. But the idea of being able to help others and maybe being able to initiate some action regarding the Hong Kong laws for same sex marriage made me want to contribute something.

So the point of it is that you want to make some sort of impact?
H: We want to do it softly. We want to give some positive energy to the circle so that people know that we’re just normal people. We do the same thing, we want the same thing and we are just human beings. We want to form a family, we want happiness, we want love. Nothing more. Nothing less.

Basic human rights, you mean?
H: Exactly. And equality. It’s very, very basic. We’re not trying to be political about it. We just do it in an artistic way. We also do it softly through interviews with people – mostly straight people. Most of the people we interviewed were straight. And I remember what my niece said – ‘it’s like we’re defining the meaning of marriage now’. People don’t take marriage seriously any more, or not as much as they used to. And I guess it’s just the way it is. When you can’t have it too easily, though, then you really treasure it.

When you’re in Hong Kong, your marriage isn’t recognised. Why did you choose to come back?
H: It’s not recognised here but that doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t do it because it’s still recognised in Canada and other parts of the world and it gives us another open door. If it gets really bad here then we may choose to go back to Canada. That’s another option.

Have you guys received any negative feedback on your documentary?
H: No. Definitely no. Weddings are good news. Nobody is going to call you up and say ‘why did you get married? It’s a bad thing’.

L: We did run into something with our Facebook profiles. In the English version I’m listed as a spouse, but in Chinese they only had the term wife or husband.
And so, I wrote a message to Facebook to get it changed and
it did actually change!

That’s pretty revolutionary, isn’t it?
H: Yes. Exactly. It’s historical in a sense that we changed something. I mean Henry changed something…
Are you going to have kids?

L: People are curious about our offspring. They ask about test-tube children or if we’ll just adopt.

H: It’s a good sign because it’s like the first stage has been accepted.

L: The second question people usually ask is how both of us can maintain a happy marriage. It’s a very usual question. What I say is that we love each other.

H: There are times when we disagree on things and we just agree to have different views. To me it’s easier than heterosexual couples because males think the same way.

L: That’s the best part about a homosexual relationship.

Have your lives changed after all this media exposure?
H: We just want to tell people that we’re happy with what we have and that’s all. And please let other people have the same thing.

Do you guys see yourself as ambassadors now?
H: We’re just trying to contribute something and hopefully someone will pick this up and we can just lay back and enjoy our private life. 

Different Paths, Same Way Wed Dec 19 Science Museum.
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